Romantic love feels magical.
It rarely feels biological.
Yet neuroscience tells a less poetic story.
The intense attraction.
The obsession.
The inability to stop thinking about someone.
The emotional highs.
The emotional crashes.
Much of it comes from ancient brain systems shared with other mammals.
Love is not an illusion.
But our interpretation of it often is.
We confuse attachment with destiny.
Chemistry with compatibility.
Intensity with depth.
When the biological excitement fades, many conclude that love has disappeared.
Perhaps it was never love.
Perhaps it was simply attraction doing exactly what evolution designed it to do.
This doesn't make relationships meaningless.
It makes them more honest.
Because lasting love begins where hormonal excitement slowly ends.
Real intimacy isn't built by chemistry.
It is built by awareness.
You don't truly choose someone while you're intoxicated by biology.
Choice begins when the intoxication wears off.
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